Boys Don't Cry
(The Cure - Boys Don't Cry)

I think being vulnerable has a certain attractive quality to it but I can't seem to quantify exactly how much. The reason I ponder this is because I have a certain fear of showing vulnerability (how ironic is that?), which theoretically puts me at a disadvantage with my male peers when it comes to establishing a connection with the opposite sex.

A guy who is willing to show his vulnerability and open up to a women would likely be more approachable simply because he's easier to talk to. There may also be a empathy factor involved here. Women would be able to empathize with a vulnerable man. Now while that gives him an edge in approachability, I would argue that it doesn't give him an edge in attractiveness simply because if it did, natural selection over the generations would've made men more inclined to cry. Which I think we all agree that men are significantly 'dryer' than women.

So why would women not want a vulnerable crying guy? Women still want someone to take care of them (notice I didn't say 'need'). So here's my tip to you guys -- a little bit of vulnerability will get you in the door but once inside, don't use up all her tissues. She still needs you to be the man so she has a shoulder to cry on.